Yesterday while trying to sort through a difficult situation involving an acquaintance I am in regular contact with, a situation in which I was unnecessarily reprimanded and belittled, I came up with the acronym RADS – Rise Above, Don’t Strangle. Initially I laughed and it carried me through the day – the minute I started to dwell on the injustice and frustration, I would tell myself to “Rise Above” and it would calm my heart.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized just how applicable it is… not just in the quippy lighthearted “save me from wanting to strangle this person in this moment” sort of way, but symbolically – if I dwell on the feelings of frustration and replay the scenarios and responses over and over in my head, I will be “strangled” by those emotions. They will overwhelm me and steal from me the air I need to breathe and grow. They will poison rather than encourage growth.
RADS – Rise Above, Don’t Strangle.